Hi Bella Materna blog members -
We have been busy launching our new lingerie items with super support and large size ranges. Grateful for our loyal customers! I am launching a new Blog just news surrounding Bella Materna and all that we hope to touch and make better.
As you may recall earlier this year, we partnered with the team at forBetter.us to offer you their fab online course called "Marriage in Motion". Many of you signed up, and I hope it has been as fruitful for your relationships as it has been mine. I love to be able to re watch any videos long after our initial course run through over a year ago.
I was reading a recent story sent from forBetter written by Laura about a break-it or make-it moment. See it posted down below for your easy reading pleasure and possibly inspiration. Meanwhile, it struck me as a boutique business owner, we have these moments too. Taking the time to be extra grateful is a great way I turn toward the make-it moments. Because of you, we are grateful to be able to design and produce new styles this year!
We are excited to be launching new items for your support pleasure whether you need an everyday bra or are in the unique time of life expecting or breastfeeding. Both our proven Pretty Sexy T-Shirt Bra in 32-38 B-I cups and the newly innovative, patent pending Wirefree Full Bra Camisole which is fitting 32-42 B-L cups are available for you! I can say with a full heart, when my customers (who have struggled to find a good lingerie fit - not to mention comfort) puts them on - a big smile shines. I really love to serve our customers well and make a difference in their daily lives than just another cute t-shirt (no offense cute t-shirts, we have T-Shirt Bras!). Supporting breast tissue in a healthy way is a design engineering challenge!
As a boutique brand, we do not have the mass consumer or the big budget pocket book. We are totally at our customers will, that is why we design especially for you- the sizes, the quality, the timeless designs to make your investment worthy. Because we know there are other ladies who need this, we seek your help to find them! Please share on social media and to your friends why Bella Materna is the bra you wear, the brand you choose - the company you support and want to see flourish. #bellamaterna Take advantage of our referral program - you Get$5 and Give$5 to anyone who buys from our website! www.BellaMaterna.com/referralcandy
If you are a Choice Camisole customer; since it is a new item, we would appreciate your help in adding reviews on the interwebs. Also, we are so excited to announce that Nordstrom.com will be featuring our camisole in the maternity section. We will reward any reviews - so please forward your review to us and we will send you a $5 gift card. Please see our newsletter coming shortly for details.
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Bella Materna - beautifully crafted intimates up to an L cup!
The forBetter article posted below:
-----MAKE MARRIAGE WORK ---- LAURA HECK BY FORBETTER
Have you ever had one of those moments in your relationship where you knew it was a make-it or break-it moment? As in... whatever decision you make will change things in a big way?
I did a television interview a couple of weeks back where I was reminded of one such moment.
Here is the set up: A hospital... a newborn baby... me (still recovering from labor)... and, my husband (with big news).
Essentially, we were still in the hospital, basking in the glow of becoming new-born parents, when my husband received news of a BIG promotion at work. We were thrilled by this news!
Or, rather, we were thrilled up until the moment when my husband revealed (later) that accepting the position would require both of us to quit our jobs, and move to... Utah.
At first I thought he was joking. But I quickly realized that whatever I said right then, would change things "in a big way".
To state the obvious for those who know me... I am not a saint! I have a fabulous track record of epic failures and selfish choices in my marriage. However, I am proud to share that this 'make-it' or 'break-it' episode in my marriage turned into a WIN in the 'make-it' column.
I decided to try out a new skill. In the therapy world call we call this skill “compromise”. Compromise goes really well when you remember three key things:
1) KNOW YOUR PARTNER
Laying the groundwork for effective compromise, especially in make or break moments, happens long before the moment even begins. Knowing your partner's inner world, every nook and cranny of your partner's heart, desires, dislikes, dreams and fears can help you understand what informs their point of view.
2) MEET IN THE MOMENT, NOT IN THE MIDDLE
In a real compromise, both parties are bound to be at least a little disappointed. Don’t let that disappointment get in the way of the relationship. Adopt a habit of asking, "what part of my partner's request can I agree to?" This will help you stay connected while you manage your differences.
3) FOCUS ON WHAT YOU BOTH WANT
If you can identify your core shared dream or goal in a situation, it can take the pressure off of the details and elevate the entire conversation. Even if your shared dream is just to “stay married”, that can help reframe your “non-negotiables”. When you’re clear about shared objectives, you cut through the fog of emotion and difference, and the specifics fall more quickly into place.
Now... back to the story. Here comes the part in where I throw my hands up and say “I win!”
I had no desire to ever move to Utah. It wasn't on my radar. I loved my life... our life... right where we were.
But I was able to compromise without harboring any resentments by focusing on those three truths.
First, I trusted my husband. I knew him well enough to know he wasn’t chasing prestige or even a paycheck. I also knew that he had my best interests in mind.
Second, I made sure to share my own thoughts and fears without criticising or getting defensive. I worked hard to stay connected to him even though I wanted badly to put my foot down (which of course wouldn't have helped).
Finally, I realized that it wasn’t about “my dream” vs. “his dream”. At that very make or break moment, this was an opportunity to create a new “shared dream”.
Being honest with myself and my husband, I knew that moving to Utah would be a tough proposition if there was no real, honest, shared meaning in the move.
I needed to wake up each day, driven and full of purpose to accomplish “our dream”.
So we created it.
Our new dream was to spend more time together as a family, and to retire in 10 years. Each day we each make contributions toward this shared dream, and as a result we are closer now than we ever have been.
In this way, the move to Utah was about something much bigger than geography... or moving just for "a job". It was about a larger, shared vision of our life together.
Let me encourage you. Learning how to compromise doesn't require an epic, life-changing decision. But compromise can be essential when an epic, life-changing, make-it or break-it decision DOES arise.
Compromise is not just about the 'what'... but about the 'how', and the 'why', and most important... the who (both of you)!
Whether it's a question of household chores, or visiting in-laws, or a future job, or whatever... it feels good to “make” the make or break moments. I want to hear about where you’ve gotten a win through compromise. Share with me your relationship win and how you made it happen.
On your side,
- Laura, at forBetter